Monday, September 20, 2010

Sexy Society

This is actually a blog I wrote on my myspace over a year ago but i have never felt stronger about this subject.


why do women torture themselves into fitting into whatever mold they think some flavor of the month will like? why cant women just be themselves without fear of rejection? 

sometimes, most of the time, im not sexy. i dont look sexy and i dont act sexy. Im not constantly bending over or pouting my lips, Im not going to wear a push up bra, heels and full make up to clean my house or run to wal-mart! I need to brush my teeth in the morning before i kiss someone, i def need concealer and eyeliner before i even look awake, and yes things jiggle on my body that probably shouldnt. but why do women, why dowe, torture ourselves with this yearning for constant aesthetic perfection? who started this societal trend and why should we submit to it or be stuck with what i call "the left overs" category of single men. cant i be sexy in comfy pants and a t shirt? most guys can, why cant we? 

why do we glue things to our fingers and eyelashes, pour bleach in our hair, why do we rip or burn body hair off ourselves, damage our skin with tanning beds, or hurt our body with diet pills?? 

and ladies why do we think its necessary to act like drunken whores to attract a mans attention? really!! do you have no other qualities to offer a man expect some place for him to put his ..... and then treat you like the trash you represented yourself as. whats always amusing is you represent yourself as worthless then get mad at him when he just treats you like you treat yourself...hmmm stop and think about that one for a minute. 

imagine if you didnt dress like a tranny on a gay pride parade float (that includes the make up) and you didnt climb up on a bar shaking everything leaving nothing for the imagination, making out and fondling your girl friends bc "guys think girl on girl is hot". anyways imagine that you were at least semi covered and had a conversation with the guy, wow new concept. 

im tired of being sexy, being some guys eye candy. some old nasty man who's biggest accomplishment in life is successfully multi tasking starring and catching flies in his mouth all at once.  and yes we can tell where your eyes really are.  

is it too much to ask for something more? in this visually stimulated society is there anything solid/real out there? 

you know what i want? I want a guy to see me done up and all plain jane regular and actually seemein both.  not some sex kitten and not some librarian. just me :) some one who has just as much fun on a low key cook at home and watch a dvd night as we would with a night out on the town. 

i dont want the fairytale, i dont want hte fantasy, i dont want the movie, thats all crap. and we have all bought into them all for way way too long. I want real I want .... substance

MY BOOK CLUB

I can only get ONE of my friends to join me in reading and having a little weekly or bi-weekly meeting. All of my other friends said something along the lines of " more reading " or "I'll just wait until it comes out in theaters". Which to me is , sorry friends, sad and lazy. oh and disappointing.

So Im just going to book club blog on here as well. I just recently, the last 3 years, started reading again. And laugh if you must but Twilight is what got me involved in reading again. I loved the whole story so much i read all four books back to back.  From there I progressed to the Sookie Stackhouse novels, all ten of them. And for all you Trueblood HBO fans the books are sooooooooo much different and of course so much better, but have you ever really heard someone who has read the book say the movie was better? lol I haven't. From there I pretty much did another run through of the sookie books ( one might say I have a vampire love story fetish ).  Then I read 3 of the 4 Vampire Diaries books,ehhh, ok but def not twilight or trueblood.

OK, so FINALLY I broke free from the vampire genre and read Eat, Pray, Love. The MOST inspirational book ever. It is actually how I got into meditation. This book takes you on a journey and I do not just mean around the world.  There were so so so many parts of her book where I felt I was reading my own diary written by someone else. After that book, I added a few more "to do's" on my bucket list.

Since 2002 I have been reading the Left Behind series. I got all the way to the 8th book and suddenly stopped, I can't remember why. So years later I tried to pick up where I left off.........yea I didn't remember anything so I started from scratch, book 1. Made it to book 3 but the got side tracked when I heard of " The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo".  Only a few chapters in so I will let you know later....

STAY TUNED

Sunday, September 19, 2010

Where to begin?

I guess you might be curious as to the title of my blog page "The Double Life: Samantha vs. Sugar". Obviously my name is Samantha but my stage name is Sugar. I have no intention of writing my life vs. stripper life for all of my blogs, but since it is my job, and part of my life stripper stories will slip in from time to time.  Instead, I intend for this and all future blogs to be part of my journey of balancing all the different people I have to be.Things I think I'm supposed to be, who I am told I am supposed to be or what I am supposed to want vs who I really am and what I really want.

I know I do not want a conventional everyday life. Eric Fromm says that a truly free person is spontaneous, doesn't give into government, organized, religion, and other schedules.  To be truly free, and thus happy, you must make your choices daily, hourly, momentarily.

I know I am not a part of any religion. I am agnostic. Right now I just believe in energy, mock or pray for me if you must, its what I believe.

I know that I am not brave enough
I know that I am not strong enough
I know that I am not disciplined enough
I know that I don't know who I am right now....

Sometimes, most times, I feel just caught up in this day to day grind of a current. And I am just managing to keep my head above water. Sometimes I wonder "Is this what life is really about? Rent, wal-mart, work, vitamins, family........isn't this the same circle people did years ago, decades ago, centuries ago???" What makes my life so special compared to theirs, nothing. I'm just part of the never ending circle of life and death.  I guess I am looking for something to inspire me, to make me feel like I beat the circle, or did something to change the circle ( in a positive way ).

I've turned to meditation, which can really really help, when I can manage to turn off my brain. ha ha Sometimes my meditation leads to an inspiring motivating energy and after I've completed it I feel like I could accomplish anything. But then I look around and the only thing I can see to accomplish is a load of laundry or a shift at the club.

I JUST WANT INSPIRATION!!!! PURPOSE!!! WHY AM I HERE AND WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO ?????

Maybe the answer will come to me next blog ;)

Stay Tuned